How do you know you're in love? Why do you fall out of love? Is it possible to fall in love at first sight? We often think of love just in terms of romance, but love between friends and family members can be thought of as types of love in their own right, and they can be just as powerful.
Meanwhile, there are a bunch of different types of romantic love too. Plus, they can help us to understand what kind of love were experiencing, especially when it comes to love with a romantic partner. Eros is the word for romantic, passionate love, suitably named after the Greek god of love and desire, Eros the equivalent of Cupid in Roman mythology. This can be a time when people can't get enough of being with their partner or lover," she adds. However, it's for these reasons that eros was thought to be a dangerous type of love by the ancient Greeks, because of how it made people lose control.
Eros love doesn't necessarily need to be long-lasting. Philia represents love between friends, which can often be just as important as romantic love. Log in Profile. Saved Articles. Contact Support. Log Out. Your cart is empty.
Our online classes and training programs allow you to learn from experts from anywhere in the world. Explore Classes. Last updated on June 8, In This Article. What does love really mean? Below are the nine types of love described in the Greek language and how to navigate each one:. Eros passionate love. A tip for eros:. Pragma enduring love. A tip for pragma:. Ludus playful love.
A tip for ludus:. Agape universal love. A tip for agape:. Philia deep friendship. A tip for philia:. Philautia self-love. A tip for philautia:. Storge familial love.
A tip for storge:. Mania obsessive love. A tip for mania:. How can I tell which type of love I have? Eros and pragma Ludus and eros Philia and agape Philautia and agape Mania and eros. The bottom line.
These needs might be social or financial. The might also evaluate their emotional assets; for example, does a would-be partner have the skills to be calm in times of stress? This refers to an obsessive love style. These individuals tend to be emotionally dependent and to need fairly constant reassurance in a relationship.
Someone with this love style is likely to experience peaks of joy and troughs of sorrow, depending on the extent to which their partner can accommodate their needs. Because of the possessiveness associated with this style, jealousy can be an issue for these individuals.
This is largely a selfless and unconditional love. An agapic partner will love you just as you are. But they will also be particularly appreciative of acts of care and kindness that they receive back from their partner.
Perhaps because these individuals are so accepting, they tend to have very high levels of relationship satisfaction. The kind of love that we feel towards our significant other is likely to change over time. At the start of a relationship we feel anticipation about seeing our partner and we are excited every time we see them. Mania — Obsessive love. The lack of strong foundation in Storge, may lead to Mania, which is when a partner feels obsessive and outrage.
This may cause a partner to be jealous, controlling, and possessive. Ironically Mania results in very destructive relationships for both parties involved. Therapy can help you learn why you have a low esteem, what is causing you to feel obsessive and outrage, and why you feel the way you do when you are in a romantic relationship. Finding the source, recognizing why you act that way, and learning healthier ways to react and feel will help you be in healthy and successful relationships.
Ludus — Playful love. Before people feel Mania, they experience Ludus, which is usually found in the initial stages of falling in love.
These are the feelings of the butterflies in your stomach, the tinkling feelings, and feelings of excitement. Many people love this feeling of Ludus and are eager to experience this feeling. Others in long-term relationship, who feel stagnant or feel like they do not know their partner anymore, desire the feeling of Ludus.
Couple therapy can help you rediscover each other and experience this feeling of Ludus. Pragma — Enduring love. From the initial feelings of Ludus, many people strive for Pragma.
This is the enduring love, which has grown and matured over time. This is the type of love we all would like to have but realize that healthy and successful relationship is a lot of work that we initially thought or romanticized. Couple therapy can help you recognize what is working and not working in your relationship and hopefully, help you obtain Pragma in your relationship. Philautia — Self-Love.
An essential element in achieving Pragma is to have Philautia, also known as Self-Love. In my opinion, Philautia is one of the most important loves and hardest one for people to obtain.
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