They start looking at the younger women around them as better and more desirable than themselves. So to counteract this severe anxiety, they may feel the need to cheat with a younger man and reassure themselves that they ARE still attractive and sexy. Those who are used to having an orgasm or even multiple orgasms before they meet you might be harder to satisfy. She may want someone who is simply better in bed, knows how to hit the right spot, and can set off fireworks inside of her mind and body.
Maturity is a big factor in being disciplined, controlling yourself, and delaying gratification to avoid disastrous consequences and potentially causing a lifetime of damage and hurt. Some women are just messed up in the head from past experiences, personality or mental disorders, and even physical deformations or differences in their brain.
Her being really dumb can be the result of her upbringing, lack of trying or effort, the people she surrounds herself with and the places she hangs out, as well as a severe lack in the brain department. Being addicted to sex is a real thing and there are treatment centers, medication, and support groups for sex addicts. A lot of it is due to either early sexual abuse in their life, the prevalence of pornography and masturbation, or just from a disorder.
Why be single when she can use to get what she wants and needs, have sex with you once in a while, and just cheat on you the rest of the time? Sometimes, even though cheating is considered very wrong, she has a justified or natural reason she did it. We must learn to adapt to the way things work and the direction the world and society is heading rather than trying to change the world, change society, and change women. These words are for us all. Beyond Worthy , by Jacqueline Whitney.
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You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. Ivan Karasev I know what being cheated on feels like. I wrote this article because when we get cheated on, we contemplate and wonder why. Why did this happen? What did I go wrong? What is wrong with me as a person? Why do I keep meeting the wrong women? What was better about the other guy? Nearly 1 in 5. Fast forward to today, those numbers have quintupled on average.
When I was 19 or 20, I cheated on my girlfriend who I loved more than anything in the world. It helped me keep my sanity. Do I believe it was it wrong? Infidelity is a very serious issue and very few couples are able to get past it. This is why you hear pretty much everyone tell you that you should leave her and move on. But you may be one of the rare cases where it makes sense to try to save the relationship.
So how do you decide if the relationship is worth trying to save? The first thing you need to do is take some time off. You have been betrayed by the person you love. Your mind is probably panicking and does not know how to process this betrayal of trust. Whatever you are feeling right now is not only painful but also confusing. A part of you wants to save the relationship and the other part just cannot see how you can ever trust her again. So, your first step should be taking some time off from her.
Find a safe place for yourself. Tell your girlfriend something like,. A part of me wants to and a part of me wants to leave you. I need some time to think things through. When you stop contact with your girlfriend, you will go through a lot of emotions. You were betrayed by someone you trust and love. Your mind and your thoughts will be all over the place. Take your time to process everything.
Speak to your friends and family. Surround yourself with people who love you and care about you. The important thing is to not take any decision out of fear or anger. Whenever you feel scared of losing her or angry at her betrayal, remind yourself that these are emotions that will pass with time and there is no need to make a decision fast.
When you are feeling calmer, you need to start thinking about it from a different perspective. Try to figure out what are the pros of trying to save the relationship and what are the cons.
In a lot of cases, your girlfriend will cheat on you because she was unsatisfied in the relationship. I am not saying this excuses her behavior. Far from it. But this does give you an opportunity to wake up and fix a lot of unhealthy issues you may have. A very common issue that most guys have is neediness and insecurity. They fall for a girl just because she agreed to be with them.
They put one girl on a pedestal and shower her with affection. As a result, the girl feels less and less attracted to the guy and eventually cheats on him. The root cause of this neediness and insecurity is often lack of confidence. This lack of confidence is usually around girls. To be frank, I think your brain needs to shut the hell up with all the negative talk. As I mentioned before, this lack of confidence and fear of never finding someone else is not the right reason to give it another shot.
When a girl you love hopelessly asks you for a favor, you will probably agree to go to the end of the world for her. When a person who betrayed you asks you for a favor, you will probably want to tell her to get lost and never contact you again. But what would you do if they are both the same person.
And this time, she is asking you something that is even harder than going to the end of the world. Even if you both do everything right to try to rebuild the trust, there will always be a bit of resentment inside you for her actions.
Your instinct might be to call her a slut, a whore, a bitch or a prostitute. But no good will come from it. You will only regret it later on. Does she regret cheating on you?
Does she understand how big this is? Does she show remorse? Does she accept her responsibility? Does she take the blame on herself or is she blaming you for this? A good way to figure out if there is a chance to fix this is to see in what way she betrayed you. If she cheated on you just once and told you immediately, it means she truly values the relationship and there is a chance you can fix this. For example,. Actions speak louder than words. A good way to see if she is serious about this is to ask her to cut all contact with the guy she cheated on you with.
Tell her that this does not mean you will forgive her and give her another chance, but it means that she is serious about making this work and if she is serious then you will seriously think about it. If she works with the guy she cheated on you with, tell her to keep all communication with him strictly related to work. If she passes the above 3 tests, then you should still take time to think about things. You should do what I said in the first part of this article.
Take some time. Analyze everything. Figure out if she is worth it. Dig deeper into your fear. Life is short and everyone should live it to the fullest. Not every relationship needs to be monogamous.
Enjoying the opportunity of a company of different people also naked can be the way to go. After all, being with the same person for 60 years can get boring. David Barash, Ph. Maybe instead of cutting it off altogether, changing the terms of the relationship is the way to go. This is the absolute most important part of the whole issue. Is there still love on both sides? First off, does she still love you?
If you found out on your own , or she seemed cold and distant when she told you, the spark is probably gone. As much as it hurts, you may need to come back to her, tell her you understand, and part ways.
It means you were willing to break their trust in order to achieve something. Think about it hard. Forgiveness is, more often than not, better than anger.
But if you have, you need to be frank with yourself. If you have cheated on someone, even if they never found out, recognize that this is how they would have felt if they did find out. Think about why you cheated when you were doing it. Did you think she might have been cheating on you, so you felt like it was okay to do as well? Did you want to have sex more often than your girlfriend did? Remember, cheating is nothing more than a betrayal of trust. It leads to the next point, which is the crux of the entire issue.
You may want to also discuss changing the boundaries. Work out for yourself what you would be okay with. Love is the key here. You have to maintain love as the center of your relationship. Put forgiveness out there, and if she wants it, she can take it. But forgiveness is about being the bigger person, letting love guide you, and understanding that people can change.
Whether you decide to give it another shot or you have to put down this relationship for now, you can do it with confidence. Making an important decision immediately after she tells you is not the way to go. Give yourself some time to think about it. If you can, take some time for yourself maybe a day or two off work so you can spend some time on your own and think. That might be the best thing to do. After processing your fear and sadness, you can honestly ask and answer these questions:.
Can I trust her in the future? Whatever you decide, make sure that the decision you make is yours and yours alone. The only direction you should take is what makes you happy. Being betrayed feels like shit. There is nothing to discuss there. You have every right to feel devastated and disappointed.
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